Getting Help

Finding the right therapist can be a deeply personal process. Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you identify someone who meets your needs and feels like a good fit for your healing journey

 

Step 1: Define Your Needs

Start by asking yourself:  What do I specifically need help with? Consider challenges such as childhood sexual abuse (CSA),        narcissistic abuse, spiritual abuse, relationships, anxiety, depression, or trauma.

Do I want a therapist who aligns with my spirituality or is neutral? Think about whether shared beliefs or a neutral perspective would better support your healing.

What gender would I feel most comfortable working with? Some people have a preference, and that’s okay.

Do I prefer virtual or in-person sessions? Consider your schedule, comfort level, and ability to travel.

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Step 2: Check Your Insurance and Budget
        If you have insurance: Look into what mental health services your plan covers, including specific therapists, sessions, and modalities.
     

        If you don’t have insurance or need flexibility: Ask therapists if they offer sliding scale rates or payment plans.

 

Step 3: Identify the Modality That Works for You
        Different therapists use different approaches. Research modalities that resonate with your needs.

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Step 4: Use Tools Like Psychology Today (link to step by step using the site- click here)
        Psychology Today is a great resource to find a therapist who fits your criteria:
       

        Visit the website and filter by state, insurance, specialties, modality, gender, and more.
       

        Make a list of potential therapists based on your preferences.

 

Step 5: Make Calls and Get Referrals
        Call the therapists on your list and ask questions about their experience, approach, and availability.
       

        Ask friends, family, or support groups for recommendations if you’re comfortable.
   

        Questions to consider during the call:
                Does this therapist have experience working with people like me?
                What is their approach to establishing goals and evaluating progress?
                How often will we meet? Are they available between sessions if needed?
       

        Are they accepting new clients?

 

Step 6: Meet Your Therapist
       Schedule an initial session with a therapist who feels like a good match. After the first session, reflect on your experience:

 

       Did I feel comfortable and understood?

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       Does this therapist have experience with my specific concerns?

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       Do I feel this person is on my side and respects my perspective?

       Even if they have a great reputation or impressive credentials, the most important factor is the connection and "vibe" you feel with them.

 

Step 7: Be Open to Exploring Other Options
       Sometimes, the first therapist you meet might not feel like the right fit or may lack experience with your specific needs. If this happens:
       

       Move on to the next phone number on your list.

 

       Keep looking until you find someone who aligns with your goals and provides a safe space.

 

Step 8: Build Your Support Team
       Therapists are like team members in your healing journey. With persistence, you can recruit professionals who:

              Listen to you and validate your experiences.
              Work collaboratively to set goals and measure progress.

Trust your instincts—your comfort and sense of safety are the top priority.

Be patient.  This is hard and can be frustrating.  
Feel free to reach out to us at No Longer Silent to walk with you on your journey towards healing.